• The child assumes the burden of the earlier family member, for example, when that person has been violated or abused, and the perpetrator did not take responsibility.
• The child takes over the guilt of the one in whose place he or she stands. For example, when an earlier family member committed a serious crime and did not assume responsibility.

The list of grave family events shows the most important causes of entanglements.
Those causes can be summarized as follows:

• Someone did not take responsibility for grave acts.
• Someone was excluded or denied. (Everyone has the right to belong).
• Someone took too much. (The balance of giving and receiving was disturbed).
• Someone takes the role of his or her parent (The generational order is disrupted).

The list with examples of issues shows some of the possible consequences of entanglements. The common thread of these consequences is that the life force of
the child is bound in an entanglement and therefore not available in the present.