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In a family constellation a representative was introduced for "the shame of the grandfather". The representative of the client's mother looked at her and said: "She is my sister and my daughter", meaning a child of her, begotten by her father. Then the client told: "This has indeed happened in my family, however, it was my aunt (a sister of his mother), not my mother who got a child from her father".
A constellation shows the energies that play in a family. Like in Ulsamer's case there was no representative in the constellation for the actual victim of the abuse, and then the
representative of a sister of the victim picked up the energy and felt it as her own.
Even if an entanglement is expressed by the "wrong" representative, still, if it is resolved in the constellation it will be healing for those involved and this is what counts.
A family constellation is an approximation of reality, that is usually accurate enough to allow a healing movement to be made that liberates. This is the essence, more is not needed. We cannot claim to accurately reconstruct the facts. Nevertheless, the information that comes out of a constellation is sometimes strikingly confirmed later.