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The lasting effect of a constellation is more subtle than the immediate feeling of liberation. In fact, this deeper effect is not something you feel; instead after some time you begin to notice changes in your life. Sometimes it is only after several months that you begin to notice it. A fear attack that used to come and go has not bothered you for months now and suddenly you realise that. A recurrent familiar feeling of powerlessness, blockage or sudden loss of energy has not come back any more.
Entanglements in the family system lay hidden in a deep layer of our consciousness
that developed very early, even before we had words and concepts. That's why this layer is unconscious; inaccessible to our thinking. A family constellation brings a change in that deep layer and so that change usually is also inaccessible to our thinking. That's why I often hear from people who did a constellation: I don't really understand what actually happened in the constellation, but I do feel relieved.
The only thing you need to do after a constellation is to stay alert for such changes and trust that they are real and lasting.