Often a child borne in a later generation will unconsciously reach out to the excluded person and become connected with him or her. Since part of the attention of the child is always with the excluded person, the child cannot be fully present and will bring this lack of presence also into a relationship. Then there is always a distance and this person can never be fully reached by his or her partner. Such a person can also not be fully present as a father or mother and so children of this relationship will feel their father or mother is not really there for them.